A 12-year-old boy committed suicide after being bullied at school and his mother shared her dramatic story

“My beautiful son was fighting a battle that not even I could have saved him from. It’s real, it’s silent and there is absolutely nothing as a parent you can do to take away this deep pain.” That was written ten days ago by Samie Hardman, a woman from Utah, U.S, on his Instagram account. The posting is accompanied by a series of photographs where she, Drayke’s father and her older sisters accompany the 12-year-old boy during his last hours. The boy committed suicide and, although specialists emphasize that such a complex problem is always multi-causal, his parents said that he was a victim of bullying and sought to raise awareness about bullying in the classroom. The moving images soon went around the world.

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“How does a 12-year-old boy who was loved by everyone think that life is so difficult that he needs to get out of it?”, the mother asks in another paragraph of the letter that she spread on social networks. The woman describes his youngest son as a boy who had “a light that shone”, “a witty personality” and “baby blue eyes that took the world by storm.” In addition, she loved basketball and always told her father and his sisters that he was going to be “The shortest star in the NBA.”

Drayke lived in Utah, United States, with his family; he dreamed of being “the shortest star in the NBA.”

“Now you will forever be the protector of your older sisters. I’m not sure how to navigate this life without you. I was supposed to spend the rest of my life with you, and instead you’ve spent the rest of yours with me.”, added Hardmanwho also sought to raise awareness about the impact of bullying on girls and boys: “My heart is broken, I don’t know how to fix it, or if I ever will, but I will spend every minute teaching kindness in memory of my favorite friend.”

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a taboo issue

María Zysman, educational psychologist and founder of Libres de Bullying, considers that Drayke’s story brought to the table in the crudest way a subject that continues to be taboo: the suicide of girls and boys. This is a problem that mental health specialists have been observing with concern for a long time, and that worsened during the Covid 19 pandemic. The consultations they receive for cases of depression or suicide attempts in girls, boys and adolescents , are becoming more frequent.

Professionals stress that Suicide is a multidimensional problem in which a range of factors intervene. In this sense, Zysman reflects: “From my experience, it is often thought that a child’s suicide cannot be possible, but they are growing alarmingly. There are number of causes. Bullying can be a precipitator, like others, to make something latent”. And he points out: “You have to be careful when reporting these cases, also think about the impact on the lives of the companions of these boys.”

For the specialist it is key that as adults we reflect on how many times girls and boys can give signs that they are suffering that go unnoticed. “The question we have to ask ourselves is what place do we give to the suffering of girls and boys, if we minimize it and how do we help them to process their pain situations in a sustained way, containing them over time,” says Zysman.

The educational psychologists consider that bullying is usually minimized, with myths such as “it makes boys strong”. “That couldn’t be further from the truth. For a child, living all the time with a message that her life is not worthwhile or has no meaning, as they are often led to believe, is not easy, especially in the case of the most vulnerable personalities. This is deepened if adults do not intervene, do not listen to him, if he feels alone and misunderstood”, details Zysman. And he concludes: “Bullying is always a traumatic situation and the marks it will leave will depend in many cases on the reaction that adults had to what was happening.”

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Source: Elcomercio